This is your friend. This is your sister. This is your brother. This is your roommate. This literally could happen to anyone that you know. This could happen to you. How it’s so much more than just rape. Domestic abuse, rape, unhealthy relationships. It opened my eyes up to a lot. Whether the statistic 1 in 4 women get sexually assaulted on campus is true or not that is one too many. It’s just crazy to me. I think it needs to stop.”
-Anna Marchio, Junior
“My friend was killed by the police. His name was Ralphie, but everybody called him Reds. He was a member of the same gang that I was active in at the time. He was 16. He was coming from a friend’s house and they were walking home and passed a gas station. He was apprehended by police officers, and he did have a weapon on him. But knowing Ralphie, being like an older brother to him, I know he would never pull a gun on an officer just because he was apprehended. I know he wouldn’t. And they killed him, they took him out when he reached down.
And at the time, I was thinking, shit man, I’m 19.”
“What is one piece of advice that you would give to college students?”
“One piece of advice that I have for anyone who is in college is to learn what you love. College is the one place where you can learn what you love to do, and not where people can really hold you back. They are not going to tell you what you can and cannot do. It’s the one place where you have everything at your disposal, and you really can do anything with it. Learn to master maneuverability. Once you know what you love to do, you can really do anything. It’s all about making that first step. When you can balance what you love to do, you can start your passion from there.”
-Brandon Stanton, Founder of Humans of New York
"True love is crazy to think about. It eats you alive. It consumes your being. It's all you think about. But when you have a fall out with the one that you love, you contemplate what you've lost or what you fear to lose the most. You remember the good times and the bad times; But most of all, you remember the memories. That first kiss leaves you in a state of pure nostalgia. That yearning for more, the urge to keep trying for more; It's an addiction that sets in. Do you want more, or do you want to quit what you've tried for far too long? Like a drug, it can help you cope or ease the pain, but in the end it's all about what you desire. Do what truly makes you happy, because that's all that matters."
-Tyler Secreto, Sophomore
“One thing many people would never know about me is when I was 17 years old, I lost the only person I had, my grandmother. She raised me for 10 years, and when I turned 15 she was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. My world came crashing down. I was lost and heart broken. I dropped out of high school to take care of her, and on March 25, 2012 at 11:30AM she passed away. I was homeless and alone. My other family members were around but never at my times of need. I found peace in knowing one day that God would take my pain away. The world is so harsh when you have to face it alone and you realize that the things you take for granted will one day be the things you wish you could have back. I was faced with so many challenges in such a short period of time that I was nearly on the verge of suicide. My heart was so heavy with pain and darkness, my Light was gone.
Now almost three years later im 20 years old, engaged, and just moved into my second apartment . I'm blessed God took something from me and replaced it with a new blessing. I still cry from time to time because pain never goes away, it just gets easier to deal with."
-Jasmine, Boulder Staff
“I'm scared to be part of the generation that meets their husbands or wives on social media. The authenticity of finding someone real is extremely difficult now. It's where my psychology major comes into play. There is a gap on who you are on social media and in person. It scares me that so many people rate their worth on social media because of the number of likes, favorites, retweets, etc. Whenwe see a certain number of likes say 200. Then we automatically think 200 people stopped what they were doing and paid attention to me. That feeds into it. It’s powerfully stimulating to people. I think our generation has become so adapted that the numbers overpower the message and the person itself. I am scared for future generations but we can change this. People need to know their worth and value.”
-Jessie Di, Junior
“Many people will tell you who is good, where you should go – and not go, what you could believe, but really you have to figure it out for yourself. Ask why. Find your passion. Question authority. Study history. Vote knowledgeably. Make eye contact. Smile.
If you took me for face value on my looks, job, education, and experiences you might think you knew me, my background. Private school educated, taken trips abroad, full time job, married.
Really, I grew up with a single mom for most of my life. I don’t know my birth father. My dad died of cancer when I was 13. I’m half-Guatemalan. I’ve worked almost every day of my adult life. I also almost got kicked out of Loyola. I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but I’ve grown from all of them.
Living in Baltimore every day, I have the pleasure and opportunity to work with fellow Baltimore residents on a daily basis who see each other as equals across boundaries of race, income, education and background to work together on shared issues. It’s not always easy. Imagine how much good work we would accomplish. Every day I still discover new beauty, creativity, and passion in our people, our city, and our community.”
-Marie Anderson (York Road Initiative Program Coordinator)
"What advice would you give college students?"
"Honestly, I don’t even know what I’m doing with my life. But everyday I wake up and tell myself ‘today’s going to be a good day’ and remind myself how crucial it is to be kind to everyone, including yourself. A smile can hide so much, and college is such a pivotal time in our lives; you’ll experience some of your highest highs and lowest lows during these four years. Ultimately, everyone wants to love college and everyone wants to love their life as a whole, so don’t forget to treat everyone with a little extra kindness and support one another because it’ll help everyone’s journey be a little bit more enjoyable."
-Moira Compton, Sophomore
“What is something that you are struggling with right now?”
“Coming to terms with who I am.”
“For too long, I’ve let others define who I was. I let people walk all over me. Talk for me, walk for me, write for me, live my life for me. I kept having to fit society’s standards, I kept having to fit this mold that everyone had created for me. I kept telling myself that this is what I wanted and that this is who I was. But it wasn’t. I was lying to myself, about myself.”
“And what were you lying about?”
“I was lying to myself about who I was. I was lying about my identity. I was lying just because I could, and because it’s what I thought I was supposed to do. I thought I was supposed to fit this mold that people and society created for me. That all changed when I came to college.”
“And what was that change?”
“The change was that I was accepting myself for who I was, for my true identity. All parts of it. I had been struggling for a long, long time with it, but it wasn’t until I started writing my own legacy and living my own life that I could come to terms with who I was. I wanted to define the term and not allow the term to define me like I had let it for so long.”
“What is your true identity?”
“I am gay. But that doesn’t define me. I am Michael James Clark.”
-Michael Clark, Senior
"We built a house for this 80 something year old couple who had a disabled son. I initially felt extremely, extremely helpless when I saw their old house because it was made out of brittle wood, aluminum ceiling, and two rooms. It also had no bathroom so they showered in a nearby stream.
However, this experience in Jamaica was the best thing that ever happened to me.
They have nothing and were so happy with this simple house. Even if they don't have anything they have everything. It was incredible to see how truly happy they were. Here we have everything but we have nothing. At first, I felt bad for them. But then I started feeling bad for myself because. Damn, I wanted what they have. That love and happiness.
Could you imagine building a small shed for people here in the United States? They would be so ungrateful. No plumbing, electricity, running water. What is the point of materialistic stuff if it brings so much unhappiness? There are so many wealthy people who are unhappy.”
-Jummie Moses, Senior
"I'm 22 years old and have worked for Loyola dining for two years now. Made plenty of friends at this university and before Christmas break I'll be welcoming my baby boy Tavion into the world in just a few days. Visit me at the pizza station for a few laughs since they put the baby (me) in the corner."
-Terence S. Ferguson, Boulder Staff
“We only dated for three months. Then sophomore year of high school I broke up with him. I just didn’t like him…he was too awkward.”
“You are so insulting.”
“But then I realized I really did like him. Then we started dating again junior year. Then the first time we left for college, we both started crying saying goodbye. At that moment we realized we always wanted to be with each other no matter what.”
-Jenna Cornwall & Brendan Mulhearn
“As a senior, there’s always the question of what’s next…so, what’s next?”
“Well, as a student, I really began to see senior year as the year to open doors for people. I began to realize it’s not all about me anymore. This is a conversation that everyone has to have. It’s my job as a human being to plant seeds and grow. I know there’s plenty more stories out there from incoming students and current students that deserve to be heard. And it goes beyond me, it goes to all of us. I want everyone to believe that their story matters and they always have a voice. Most of all that no matter what anyone says, just know that every story is sacred.”
-Felisa Velasco, Stories in Solidarity
"Today is the first day all semester that I haven't changed my outfit three times between my 9 AM and 11 AM classes."
-Austin Joseph, Sophomore
"My parents are both immigrants from Haiti. They came here about 30 years ago together. I’ve lived in the same house for 20 years in Bridgeport, Connecticut. And it’s not a third-world country or anything, but you will go out and see drug deals happening, if you looked on the news, it’s rare that you will see someone getting on the news for academic excellence or for an achievements; you would see more shootings or gang-related activity.
There would be times I would try to fit in. There were times at Fairfield Prep where I would say, ‘I’m from Fairfield,’ just to fit in so that they wouldn’t associate me with the kind of tough setting that Bridgeport has, or the bad things that happened there. Or, if I was talking to someone from the Bridgeport area, I would say ‘I’m from Bridgeport,’ to try to fit in because I wanted them to know that I identified with them.
That’s been my main struggle, it made me realize that I have to identify myself and choose a side. Fairfield is the richest county in America, and it’s associated with money. Bridgeport isn’t.”
“Everyone should get Green Dot training. The Brock Turner thing is getting people so heated. I really hope that it becomes a more serious issue for people. In my sociology class the other day, my friend Mario, he said people are so heated about Brock, and it’s obvious to see why. But what’s scarier, is that there are thousands of more Brock Turners out there. May be someone sitting next to you.
I want that Ignatius fire to get lit under peoples’ butts about that. We have a required diversity class, why can’t we have a required sexual assault one, too? It should be required to graduate. It’s just a part of a day of your life, and it actually makes a huge difference in your life, and an even bigger one in someone else’s. We’re a small school, but we can still change the culture.” -
Anna Marchio, Junior